“We won’t offend anyone.” That was the sign outside the religious studies building near the campus of Indiana University. I walked by that sign going to and from the lab where I finished my post-doctoral work (1990-1993).
When I saw that sign, I would think, “I’m offended that you won’t stand for something as good or evil.” No one should aim for a deathbed claim of “I never offended anyone.” Our mom used to tell my sister and me, “If Jesus didn’t make everyone happy, you’re not going to, either.”
Mature people hold these truths in constructive tension:
- Being perpetually offended is not a fruit of the Spirit.
- Never giving offense means you are unprincipled.
As we grow in maturity let us press hard to know what we stand for (and are willing to suffer for because we have a conviction of its truth), and where we are flexible. This is living in truth and grace.
Distinguish ideas and behaviors from relationship interactions. It is right and proper to be offended by demonstrably bad ideas and behaviors which do not support human flourishing or are clearly not in step with the wisdom from God. Learn to choose not to be offended by rude and crude interactions with other people.
The way to defeat the ‘cancel’ culture and media-accelerated ‘perpetual outrage’ is to use the power of forgiveness coupled with a willingness to be teachable. Choose to be a learner rather than be offended. We can collectively move forward through the abundant foolishness in the world.
